The Virtue of Forgiveness

“To err is human, to forgive is divine.”

I have heard this saying so much it’s practically ingrained in my brain. When you’ve been hurt, it can be challenging to forgive. Some people even say that most victims find it easier not to overlook. It’s human to be resentful and angry with those who have hurt us. Holding onto that pain and anger is like a security blanket. Sadly, that security blanket is a slow killer. To truly move past the pain, we must forgive.

Forgiveness is actively overcoming the feeling of resentment or revenge for the person who has done wrong actions. How and when you chose to forgive is relative. Some of us take longer than others to tap out of the negative emotions. Also, some people feel like one action is more unforgivable than another. Others may feel like forgiving that person may encourage the wrongdoer to be offensive repeatedly. There may be times where the transgression is so severe that it causes a person to think differently about someone, never being able to forget what they did to them.

Putting yourself in place to forgive is incredibly crucial to your psyche. It is never easy to forgive someone who has wronged you in some way. People don’t forget betrayal, but forgiveness is still mandatory. It is especially hard to forgive someone if what they have done has immensely hurt you emotionally or physically. Forgiving is not weak and doesn’t make you look like a doormat. This act symbolizes love for yourself.

If you are being forgiven for something you did, be sure to SHOW why you deserve forgiveness. Asking for and being bestowed mercy is just step one. Show how grateful you are for being forgiven by involving the forgiving party. Words are powerful, but actions say so much more. Holding back forgiveness leads to more pain for us than the offender, and the practice of forgiveness is not a one-shot deal; it is a life-long discipline.

Who Wants To Be A College Graduate Anyway?

Job hunting is a daunting task, especially when you need one in a hurry. Presently, I’m looking for a job. Preferably a day job with good hours, friendly co-workers, and an exceptional benefits package. I’ve written professionally for thirteen years. Seriously, since the tender age of thirteen I’ve been blessed to have my own column in my local newspaper. I wouldn’t call it a job since I’m not being paid for it, but I love to do it. If I could do what I’m doing now and make money doing it, that would make my entire life. What’s the problem? I don’t have a degree.

Most people will tell you that a college degree isn’t necessary to get a good job. That is true in some cases, but in others you absolutely need that paper. College is expensive and is extremely time-consuming. A lot of students (myself included) have questioned whether it’s even worth it to go to college. In my opinion, it is absolutely worth it.There are plenty of skills that we learn in college that aid us in navigating the real world,

In my case, I dropped out of college after five years of struggle. I wasn’t motivated and I despised those General Study courses. I just wanted to write, I couldn’t understand why the hell I needed math and science to be successful in the world of journalism. None of it made sense to me. All of my friends were going to class and actually passing while I was constantly playing catch up. After dropping out twice, I decided I was fed up with college life, it was time to integrate into society.

After about two years of working dead-end jobs and making excuses for not completing school, I had my light-bulb moment. All of those “extra for no reason” classes were much-needed. Writing is my passion and I want to be the best at what I love to do. You can’t be a good writer if you don’t know much of  anything. To be the best in any industry, it’s best to be well-rounded and knowledgeable on multiple things. I despised math in college, but I need it for when I’m doing business. Think about it. Would you rather have knowledge of accounting for yourself? Or would you rather put all of your trust in an accountant that could potentially screw you over?

I understand that college isn’t for everyone and that’s okay. There are plenty of other great ways to give to society and be successful without obtaining a college degree. This piece is for that struggling college student who can’t see the pot of gold that’s at the end of the rainbow.  If you’re having difficulty in a certain subject, the best thing you can do for yourself is to let someone know. My biggest regret is telling myself that I was incapable of learning something I didn’t understand. We’re so much more than we give ourselves credit for, even if we aren’t aware of it yet.

My story is the same story for a lot of students and dropouts. Fortunately, it’s never too late to start over. I’m going back to college because I want to learn everything about journalism and writing. Math and science be damned, I will graduate and I will have a job that I love. I challenge any one struggling or putting off going back to college to take on that mindset. Especially if you’re tired of working dead-end jobs. Nothing worth having comes easy. Stay encouraged and see the bigger picture. It’s impossible for you to know everything. Put your pride aside and open yourself up to other like-minded people. Life will amaze you once you start living it.

Good Luck!

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